That moment someone ticks you off at work (more than once), a lover continues to emotionally scar you or a family member you don’t want to offend takes advantage of your feelings. We’ve all experienced it at some period of our lives. Yes, the hurt and anger. We’ve sometimes shielded ourselves to not draw attention, trying not to allow them to get the best of us, but they have.
Even though, they may not have you physically, they have you emotionally. It may not be all the time, but during their presence which is more than enough. When you’ve allowed someone to take power of your emotions it can be draining, depressing and eventually dangerous. I can understand wanting to keep the peace, but at what and whose cost? Bottled up emotions can lead up to depression, anxiety and other harmful outcomes. Not to mention the stress you put on your body and the other health risks.
I’m not saying go to that person screaming and yelling. You need to evaluate the situation first. I’m pretty straight forward, but due to varying of situations I’d say approach them when you aren’t as angry. Rehearse what you need to say if you’re an introvert or overly anxious. Just make sure to get your point across without yelling and argument if possible. You lose ground when you become irate even though it’s easily said than done.
The main focus is to relieve yourself of the pain, hurt or anger. You don’t want to transfer it, but get an understanding if possible. I will acknowledge that everyone will not be as accepting and understanding. For those who don’t try to understand, stand your ground and deliver your stance then walk away. If they don’t value your emotions, they don’t value you period. Let them go or decrease interaction depending on the situation.
You’re too valuable to allow someone to treat you as an invaluable. Remember self-worth starts within regardless of your environment. You’re too worthy for the emotional abuse. Don’t keep it bottled up, set yourself free. Do it for you, not them nor me.
A Restless Mind 